Jaded..............Yup!!!!!

This won't be long I promise you. I have looked at love and relationships through every aspect that I possibly could nonetheless I am JADED. I am sick of being told you're BEAUTIFUL, I LOVE YOU, YOU CAN COUNT ON ME, I WANNA MAKE YOU MY WIFE, YOU'RE MY BEST FRIEND. When I was younger I was always ecstatic when I heard these things but now after experiencing life I am JADED it all sounds like BS and I am sick and tired of it all. So my response going forward is simple......ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS......So until the actions and words match I will not give 100% I will be a little DESPONDENT ....because this will protect my best interest. Everyone at some point must put themselves first and I have reached that point. So I am JADED my experiences and life have made me this way I accept it wholeheartedly.

The Double Standard!!

Dating in your 30's is completely different than dating in your 20's. In your 20's as a woman you wait to be approached and your more than ready to be faithful and as soon as you find the so called man of your dreams you are ready to get married. In your 20's everything has a deadline of when certain accomplishments are made and you are more willing to compromise. In your 30's there's a new awakening you may have spent the last 5-10 years in a relationship that didn't work and after having children, graduating from college and maintaining a household you have a clearer outlook on life. In your 30's if  your dating you decide that things will be a lot less stressful if you weigh your options. So you date more than one man at a time and when one gets on your nerves you call up another one or when they're both being annoying you bask in the fact that you don't have to answer to either one. I have decided that I will live my life on my own terms and I do not plan on acting like a man but I definitely will not settle on whoever approaches me just because they are interested. I learned a long time ago that a person only gives you what you accept and as long as you accept the bare minimum you will continue to receive JUST THAT. So in my 30's I am more than happy with being alone or dating on my own terms and no one else's ....LOL 

But You're Pretty........Why are You Single?????

For the last 5 months or so I have heard these very words: You're Pretty....Why Are You Single??? Why would someone leave you or what made you leave them?? Here it is being pretty is not enough to hold a relationship together ....I know this and so I am always willing to put my best foot forward when entering any relationship....but.....since I have gotten older I now realize that just because I am single and pretty it doesn't mean that I am unhappy. I have reached a point in my life where I would rather not settle for less; so I am perfectly fine with being single until my ideal mate is found. Great sex, and great conversation or great cooking is just not enough there are so many different aspects of the spectrum that must be addressed and if those needs are not being met then I would prefer to be alone and dating or not dating whomever I choose ;-)